You didn't
get here
by accident
You've built a career most people would call a success story. You're the one who handles it — at work, at home, in the group chat, in the crisis nobody else wants to own. Your ambition isn't the problem. It's not something you need to want less of, or apologize for, or "balance" your way out of.
But somewhere along the way, you stopped asking what it's actually costing you. Not because you didn't care — because you never had the room to ask.
What this work is
I help high-achieving women in the DMV who are quietly renegotiating what their ambition costs them — at work, at home, or in the version of themselves they haven't had time to check on — figure out what comes next.
Not a career pivot for the sake of a pivot. Not "slow down and enjoy life more." A clear-eyed look at what you've built, what it's built on, and whether that foundation is the one you want carrying you into the next chapter — or whether it's time to lay something sturdier down.
Why me
I spent 22 years inside the DC defense association world before building this practice — at NDIA, in rooms exactly like the ones you're in now. I know what it costs to be the reliable one in an ecosystem where your reputation is your currency and admitting you're tired can feel like a liability. I'm not coaching you from the outside looking in. I've done this work in this world. If you're in DC's policy, Hill, association, or government contracting ecosystem, you won't have to explain the context. If you're not, the work still holds — the ambition, the invisible costs, the identity questions underneath all of it aren't unique to the DMV. They just tend to show up loudest here.
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You've hit a level of success that should feel like enough, and it doesn't quite
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You're proud of what you've built and privately wondering what it's cost the people you love
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You're asking "is this menopause or is it just stress" and don't know who to ask
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You're watching your kids need you less, or a parent need you more, and don't recognize the shape of your own life right now
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You're good at your job — including the job of looking fine — and you're tired of being the only one who knows that's a job too
Who this is for
What working together looks like
This isn't a quick fix, and it isn't meant to be. We meet virtually once every two weeks for six months — enough time to actually get honest, get clear, and get moving. Together we'll talk through where you are, where you want to be, and the next steps to get there.
The first step
A conversation, not a commitment. We'll talk about where you are, what's actually costing you the most right now, and whether this is the right room for that conversation to keep happening.